Hello Mamas! Today, I am talking about lessons that entrepreneurs can learn from the movie, "Joy." But first, I have to give a little background.
Going to the movies is a part of my self-care routine. As mamas and busy entrepreneurs, we (desperately) need self-care. And self-care is simply taking the time to do something that refreshes, refuels, and rejuvenates us! For me, I love going to the movies. I am a movie buff, junkie, you name it. I love the movies. So, the movies has become a part of my self-care routine. I usually go to the movies on a Sunday afternoon when my son has his "daddy day"! I encourage all of you reading this post to develop a self-care practice and routine to ensure you get the self-care you need to stay in tip top shape. [If you need help developing a self-care routine or finding more joy, please contact me!]
Let me tell you a little bit about the movie. "Joy" is a comedy and drama movie (known as a "dramedy") that was released on Christmas Day 2015. So, it just came out. It stars Jennifer Lawrence as the main character, Joy, as well as Mr. Handsome himself, Bradley Cooper, and acting legend, Robert De Niro. You may know Jennifer Lawrence from movies like "American Hustle," "Silver Linings Playbook" (also with Bradley Cooper and a personal favorite), and "The Hunger Games," to name a few! This movie is currently nominated for the Golden Globes Award for Best Musical & Comedy. And Jennifer Lawrence won the Golden Globe Award for Best Actress for her performance. It's a definite must-see.
Even more than the story line and Golden Globe nominations and award, this movie carries some important lessons for entrepreneurs. I'd love to share a few I gathered!
First Lesson: Don't Lose Yourself In Being A Mama
As you all know, I'm firm believer in the important job that us mamas do. I think it is THE most important job. However, I also believe that we can't let it be the sum total of who we are. We also have dreams. Don't forget those dreams. Your dreams can involve your family or not - just don't forget them! Becoming a mama is a super huge transition in life - but you still have a life to live!
Second Lesson: Don't Give Up On Your Dreams
In this movie, Joy was an inventor, a creator, a visionary! She loved to create something from nothing. And she had dreams of inventing things since she was a young child. However, when we meet her in the movie, her life looks nothing like she hoped it would look. In fact, it didn't resemble any of her dreams. Like most of us, life throws us curveballs. Sometimes we have setbacks. Life doesn't go our way. However, we could be in the middle of our story, or just beginning. Joy "woke up" from her current life to the possibilities of a new life built on her dream. She decided to not let her current situation determine her future. You can make the same choice.
Third Lesson: Don't Listen To Your Haters
Although I don't love the word "haters," sometimes is just fits. In the movie, Joy definitely had haters or naysayers that thought her dream was silly and that she couldn't do it. She even had times when she was made fun of. And people put down her dreams. The difference between Joy and many of us is that we choose not to listen to the haters. We listen to the song in our hearts and follow our dreams. We don't let the naysayers get to us!
Fourth Lesson: Don't Take No For An Answer
Joy encountered several no's in the movie. In fact, she encountered so many that I stopped counting. We are all going to face rejection and our share of no's. The key is how we deal with them. Do we shrink up and let them beat us? Or do we figure out a way through? Joy let the no's fall on deaf ears. She decided not to listen to them. She encountered a big mishap. An incident that could have stopped other entrepreneurs. It didn't stop her. She found even greater resolve! In fact, she even told a key decision-maker (the handsome Bradley Cooper) that she wasn't going to take no for an answer. She refused. She offered new ideas and solutions. She tried different things. She didn't let no stop her. She knew that a "yes" was coming.
Fifth Lesson: Believe In Yourself & Your Dreams
Our businesses and lives call us to believe in them and our dreams. If we don't believe in them, we can't convince others to believe in them or buy from us. Joy wholeheartedly believed in her dream, which was her invention. She knew it was an amazing idea. And she also realized that just because other people didn't see her vision at first, it didn't make her idea a bad one. Joy knew that she could sell her business better than anyone else because she knew it inside and out. She took stock of her skills and abilities and used them to her benefit.
God whispered our dreams to us. He didn't explain it to others so sometimes it takes a while for others to see our vision too. Don't give up. If you received a God-whisper, a dream, keep listening and believing. Believing is half the battle!
Sixth Lesson: Surround Yourself with "Dream Keepers"
In this movie, Joy surrounded herself with people who believed in her, her abilities, and her dreams. She showed us that we all need to gather together a group of people that support our dreams. I call those people "Dream Keepers." These are people you can trust with your dream. Dream keepers protect your dream and can encourage you when the going gets rough. (Notice I said when, not if!) We all need others. We were created to be in community. We need people who believe in us. Joy had a grandmother who never stopped believing in her. Her grandmother kept reminding her of her dreams and her past successes. Her grandmother held a high vision for Joy and her life. She also had an ex-husband who ended up becoming a best friend. He helped her land the opportunity of her lifetime.
It's also worth noting that we shouldn't take our relationships for granted. Relationships sometimes grow, change, and even morph - like Joy and her ex-husband. We never know who is going to be an angel or a dream keeper. Let's make sure we are appreciating those wonderful people around us.
Seventh Lesson: Sometimes You Have To Get Tough & Stand Up For Yourself
Being an entrepreneur is not for the fainthearted. The life of an entrepreneur can be rough. Ask one. It's also super rewarding. With big costs, come big rewards. As a result, we have to be tough when the going gets rough. We have to stand up for ourselves and our dreams. In this movie, Joy encountered the biggest threat to her business and her dream. Instead of giving in or raising a flag of defeat, she countered! She fought back and in turn got her business back even stronger and better.
Sometimes life calls us to fight (metaphorically not physically) for our businesses and for our dreams. It throws us punches and we have to punch back. If your dreams and business are worth having, they are worth fighting for. Don't forget that.
And for some other legal wisdom (as I don my attorney hat), make sure you read all the fine print, understand disclaimers, and pay attention to the documents that you sign. Joy learned a lesson or two about that one!
Please let me know if this post helped you in the comments below! And please share with your mama and entrepreneur friends on Twitter and Facebook. I'd love to hear from you!
Love and light,
Brooke-Sidney of Bella & the Babe